Everybody has to pay attention to what God is asking from them. This cannot be judged from the outside . We continuously have to seek what God’s will is, we have to ask Him in our prayers , open up to Him our desires , anxieties , to observe what sort of feelings are in us, and if we are searching honestly , sooner or later we are going to get an answer . We have to dare and believe that God won’t leave us alone, if we turn to Him.