In order to mature, to become an adult, we need confront anguish, the distress of failure, and the struggle to find a way out. If one can understand this, then one no longer perceives God as cruel, but rather, as One Who calls us to accept that it is through facing difficulties and seeking solutions that we grow. I cannot imagine anything more important than for one to address his Creator, and to experience in their heart of hearts, that He replies.