Father Csaba’s reflection on the gospel….
Friday 18 August 2017.
I was having a talk with a young man , who keeps on changing, his workplaces , friends , because they are not the “real ones”! I told him if he comes along with his girlfriend , I am not going to marry them, even though he is thirty years old , he is not capable of settling down and be true to his own commitments!” Like this I cannot let him, without any basis, grounds in front of the altar to swear eternal loyalty to a girl, who trusts him naively and believes that the words of marriage wows “ for better and for worse “ mean the same for the young man as for her !
Today’s man is at the mercy of his own desires, moods, is thrust to his own pleasures like a bone to a dog ! You cannot hear anything else like : I don’t feel like it, I am not studying, I am not moving on , I am getting out of this relationship, , I am handing in my resignation ! A person has desires, feelings, moods but the person is behind all this ! In the stillness of your reflections discover yourself, like a field with flowers, admire the flowers within you , but also the wildly growing weeds as well ! By getting to know yourself slowly you’ll recognise the dark clouds weighing heavily upon your heart , the deceptive moods that come and go , you'll understand the scattering of your desires and also that you do not continuously have to feed your desires because they can become too demanding and as a spoilt child become insistent ! I encourage you that make your decisions judiciously , and then move on with perseverance , you can be only swayed by your baseless fears and silly mirages from your goal!
There is always something “bad" in our lives but if at times like this we quit we’ll be like a windmills that moves in every weak breeze ! A man will look for his place, will weigh things up, will decide and will stick by his decision, promise ! You have to be aware , that in the world of honest adults there is one measure : one man, one word !
With love ,
Father Csaba
translated by dr k.e.
Photo: A child you took responsibility for, has to be brought up !
Some Pharisees approached Jesus, and tested him, saying,
"Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any cause whatever?"
He said in reply, "Have you not read that from the beginning
the Creator made them male and female and said,
For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother
and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh?
So they are no longer two, but one flesh.
Therefore, what God has joined together, man must not separate."
They said to him, "Then why did Moses command
that the man give the woman a bill of divorce and dismiss her?"
He said to them, "Because of the hardness of your hearts
Moses allowed you to divorce your wives,
but from the beginning it was not so.
I say to you, whoever divorces his wife
(unless the marriage is unlawful)
and marries another commits adultery."
His disciples said to him,
"If that is the case of a man with his wife,
it is better not to marry."
He answered, "Not all can accept this word,
but only those to whom that is granted.
Some are incapable of marriage because they were born so;
some, because they were made so by others;
some, because they have renounced marriage
for the sake of the Kingdom of heaven.
Whoever can accept this ought to accept it.”
Matthew 19, 3-12
Father Csaba’s reflection on the gospel….