We don’t have to conquer but convince the other. We should not stop them, but get them on our side patiently, humbly : If I represent a true cause then I have to present it , compose my arguments convincingly so that the other person may stand by my side . If I cannot convince them then I may not be right or else I cannot compose , represent my values, worth well. I should be open maybe they are right , or pay attention , what is not clear or easily “digestible” in my views . I can see it among the children as well how they like to pick a fight , one of three straight away wants to become the boss . Adults straight away want to push their views onto others and direct the others. Very -very humbly we should look into our hearts, am I really standing up for the truth or am I only trying to or bowl over the other. When ever we have a fierce argument in most cases what is the most important  thing is , who rules the roost ! 

Father Csaba

translated by dr k.e.